Control. One word can mean so much to each every one of us. When we have control in our decisions, days, and lives, everything is better.
To grasp a little bit more control in your life, especially if you feel like you are running a hamster wheel (like I can feel many days), take control by doing 1 thing, just 1, that you want to do (not that you have to do) each day.
For me, no matter how busy I am, I take 5 minutes to have a cup of coffee in silence. Silence is an added bonus as a 2013 study in the Journal of Brain, Structure, and Function showed that silence can regenerate brain cells and allows that brain to tap into the Default Mode Network to be refreshed and rejuvenated.
Note: Your children need the same element of control in their own lives to feel safe and secure. Control will give them marked improvements in behavior, because as you can imagine, constantly being told what to do by others can get wearisome. Now how to give your kids control without them running the show. Give your child choices in his day and let him or her do something they want to (not have to). I let Seamus go to school with the craziest hair and worst outfit ever the other day and boy was he happy. With choice in his life, your child’s whole day will be better and so will yours.